So, in the beginning of a social interaction with a new partner (e.g.
You will know you’ve “won them over” when your partner’s body language begins to change. They will lean in to you more, make more eye contact, and smile. At this point, they have switched to a promotion focus.Nonverbal communication is very important in flirting, dating, and relating to others.Yes, words are important, but body language is also an essential component of solid social skills.They found that requests were more successful when individuals tailored their body language to the regulatory focus of the other person.
In other words, when trying to persuade someone with a cautious “prevention focus”, it is better to use reserved and quiet body language of your own (what they called vigilant nonverbal style).
Therefore, it is now time for you to switch to an “eager nonverbal style”, defined as: Now that you are no longer a “threat”, you can convey your interest and excitement through body language. No one is going to get excited about a date request from a guy with slumped shoulders and hang-dog head.